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As a parent of a child with ADHD and autism, you know it’s a misnomer that “excessive sugar” causes ADHD. Yet, you hear a lot of noise about ADHD and food. So are there specific foods your child should avoid to reduce the risk of making their hyperactivity and ADHD symptoms worse?

Is there a connection between food and ADHD?

Brain anatomy, genetics, head injuries and even certain problems during pregnancy can result in a person having ADHD. The child’s diet does not cause ADHD.

Studies have shown that a child eating too much sugar or any specific foods or additives does not cause or significantly contribute to their ADHD. In fact, anyone with ADHD needs a healthy diet like we all do, and eating well will enhance their overall well-being and health. Ensuring that your child is getting the nutrients and minerals they need through their diet is very important for their development and brain health.

Are there certain foods your child should avoid if they have ADHD?

Girl eating a big slice of pizza. Are there foods your child should avoid to reduce triggering ADHD symptoms?

Studies are inconclusive about eliminating a specific food or additive to improve ADHD symptoms such as hyperactivity. However, some studies have shown that eliminating foods that your child is sensitive to from their diet has shown promise for improved behavior and cognitive function as well as decreasing the triggers for ADHD (Curr Nutr Rep. 2023; 12(3): 383–394.)

What foods tend to have the highest sensitivities? Some common ones can include:

  • Dairy products, especially milk
  • Eggs
  • Tomatoes
  • Foods containing artificial food dyes
  • Chocolate
  • Oranges
  • Grapes
  • Beans
  • Foods containing gluten
  • Wheat (in addition to it having gluten)
  • Corn
  • Soy

If your child’s behavior seems worse after eating any of these foods or their gastrointestinal system doesn’t like these foods, try eliminating them from your child’s diet. If your child improves, it may be worth avoiding that food as much as you can.

My son J doesn’t have any food sensitivities, but he is allergic to peanuts and another couple of nuts. That has been difficult to maneuver because so many foods have at least traces of nuts. Thankfully, I’ve learned to navigate the labels on food items and keep them out of our diet. That would be the same though for a food sensitivity because as a parent we have to look at the ingredients carefully when buying food for our kids and families.

Also, when J was younger, I knew he was sensitive to eating too much sugar. His behavior would worsen with the “sugar high,” and then he would really crash when his glucose level would go back down. However, I don’t believe that sugar was one of the foods that affected his ADHD. I think he was more sensitive to the glucose spikes from too much sugar, so I learned to minimize it.

What foods should you encourage your child with ADHD to eat?

Mom and teen in the kitchen talking and eating together. Do certain foods trigger ADHD symptoms?

Like I mentioned before, those with ADHD need a healthy, balanced diet like we all do. If you are looking for a good guide, I really like MyPlate from the USDA. J’s nutritionist introduced us to this resource, and it has been really helpful for me, both for myself and as a parent with planning family meals and snacks.

MyPlate has a kids page that even includes games and other educational material to teach your child about nutrition.

We all need a variety of fruits, vegetables, grains, protein and dairy (unless you or your child has dairy food sensitivities) each day. The thing I like about MyPlate is that you can use their online calculator to put in your or your child’s age, weight, height and activity level to get the suggested number of calories you need daily plus a guide on the amount of food needed in each food group.

What has been your experience with foods and ADHD with your child? What advice would you give other parents? Leave a comment so that we can all share and encourage each other on this journey.

Additional resources

If you are interested in more information about helping your autistic child with ADHD eat well, check out these.

 Smart Foods for ADHD and Brain Health (affiliate link)

Book Cover for "Smart Foods for ADHD and Brain Health"

The Disconnected Kids Nutrition Plan: Proven Strategies to Enhance Learning and Focus for Children with Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia, and Other Neurological Disorders (affiliate link)

Book Cover for "The Disconnected Kids Nutrition Plan"

Ultimate Kids’ Guide to Being Super Healthy: What You Need To Know About Nutrition, Exercise, Sleep, Hygiene, Stress, Screen Time, and More (affiliate link)

Book Cover for "The Ultimate Kids' Guide to Being Super Healthy"

Broccoli Boot Camp: Basic Training for Parents of Selective Eaters (affiliate link)

Book Cover for "Broccoli Boot Camp"

Mark Twain Healthy Eating, Exercise, and Sleep Mindfulness Workbook for Teens, Health and Fitness, Mental Health, Growth Mindset & Nutrition Book, Health and Wellness Workbooks for Teens and Pre-Teens (affiliate link)

Book Cover for "Healthy Eating, Exercise, and Sleep for Teens and Pre-teens"

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Your autistic child with ADHD may have one or more sensory issues, and that is very characteristic of those who are on the spectrum. Yet, you can help your child better manage these sensitivities by providing a sensory space in your home (and that can include your backyard too) where they can have items to help them. Find out how you can create a sensory space for your child with autism and ADHD.

Sensory issues, autism and ADHD

Sensory issues are very common with autism and ADHD. While the cause of sensory issues hasn’t been identified yet, experts believe the presence of them in people with autism and ADHD are related to the developmental delay of their brains. Scientists believe those with autism have a neurobiological dysfunction in the central nervous system. Sometimes this leads to overstimulation or under stimulation of the person’s senses.

Many children with autism and ADHD have sensory issues related to sight, hearing, touch, taste and/or smell. However, there are also “senses” linked to body awareness and balance that also can be impacted. These include:

  • Vestibular – The inner ear structure that notes the position of your head and helps keep you balanced.
  • Proprioception – The internal sense of your body that helps you maintain your posture and control how your body moves through space.
  • Interoception – The sense of what is happening to your body and how you feel. For example, do you feel hot or cold? Can you feel your emotions?

Understanding your autistic/ADHD child’s sensory issues

Autistic girl playing with pop-it sensory toys. How to create a sensory space in your home to help your child with autism and ADHD.

The most common sensory issues with autistic children who have ADHD include:

  • Bright light and light wavelengths
  • Loud noises
  • Tastes (e.g., textures of foods, intense spice, etc.)
  • Strong smells (e.g., perfumes, air fresheners, body lotions, etc.)
  • Too light of touch
  • Need for deep touch (e.g., is under stimulated, so they need weighted blankets, deep massage, etc.)

Our son J has oversensitive hearing. The school psychologist described it this way to us: a loud flushing toilet in a public restroom sounds as loud to him as 747 jet taking off to us. That really put it into perspective for me. Thankfully, working with an excellent occupational therapist helped J desensitize his hearing so that noise is not so loud to him. It’s still louder to him than it is to us, but it’s more manageable.

When he was young, he also had sensitivity with his vestibular system. Fortunately, we had a trampoline and swing set in our backyard that helped him a great deal with this. In addition, his occupational therapist had him do specific exercises and activities at home to help with those as well.

You most likely know what your child’s sensory issues are but take the time to really observe your child to ensure you are capturing everything. It can help you determine how to best provide for their needs and if you need occupational or other therapy to assist your child in overcoming or managing them. The more you understand, the better you can meet your child’s sensory needs.

What type of sensory items could help your autistic/ADHD child?

Sensory sand box. How a sensor space in your home can help your child with autism and ADHD.

The great thing about understanding your autistic/ADHD child’s sensory needs is that you can tailor the items that will help your child specifically.

Does your child need more stimulation? That can come in the form of movement with swings, trampolines or other items. Or maybe it’s a sandbox, water table, Play-doh, bead box, pop-its or other items that can help your child.

Or maybe your child needs a place to come down when they are overstimulated. That can be a part of a room where the lights can be dimmed or blinds pulled down, calming music can be played, and a weighted blanket is available.

Really, the options are many for a sensory space. What’s important is that you create it just for your child.

How to create a sensory space on a budget

When I was doing research for this blog post, I came across a website that had sensory room spaces available for more than $20,000! That is way out of the realm for most families with an autistic child. As a certified financial educator and mom to an autistic son, I know the financial burden of autism really affects families. And I know you don’t have to go overboard to create a great sensory space in your home for your child!

You can develop a sensory space for your child on whatever budget you have available. In fact, you can repurpose things you may already have around the home and don’t have to spend any money on new items. For example, if playing in water stimulates your child, look in your kitchen for cups, bowls or other items you can collect into a plastic bin you already have and place them in the bathroom where your child can use them in the sink or tub there. Or find a bucket, cups and plastic toys that you can keep in your garage and then fill the buckets from the hose on a warm day outside. Your child can then use the cups and toys to play in the water.

The first thing to do is locate an area that can be used as a safe space that your child can go to when they need sensory stimulation or a place to calm themselves. Don’t forget the areas outside too. I didn’t intentionally create our backyard into a sensory area for my son J, but it worked out that way. We had a trampoline, swing set, water table and sandbox for him and his brother. Those really helped him with some of his sensory issues when he was young!

Then, with the information you’ve gathered about your child’s sensory challenges, determine what you could place in the area that will help your child. These items could include:

  • Pillows with different textures
  • Weighted blanket
  • Bins of sensory toys such as fidget toys, pop-its, Play-doh, bead boxes and more
  • Exercise ball
  • Sensory indoor swing (if you want to install one in your home – or you can hang a swing from tree in your yard too; affiliate links)
  • Crash pad that can be made with a duvet stuffed with blankets, pillows and stuffed animals [or you could purchase one if preferred (affiliate link)]
  • Tactile wall or board [you can create your own or purchase one (affiliate link)]
  • Calming music
  • Dimmed lighting
  • Mini trampoline (affiliate link) or a larger trampoline for outside (affiliate link)

You also may find other items that can help your child in their sensory space. A sensory space for your child with autism and ADHD can make a big difference in their comfort and behavior.

Have you created a sensory space for your child with autism and ADHD? Leave a comment to let us know about your experience and what worked for your child. That way, we can share and encourage each other along this journey!

Additional resources

Do you want more information about sensory issues, autism and ADHD? Take a look at these resources available.

Temple Talks about Autism and Sensory Issues: The World’s Leading Expert on Autism Shares Her Advice and Experiences (affiliate link)

Book Cover for "Temple Talks . . . About Autism and Sensory Issues"

Sensory Perceptual Issues in Autism and Asperger Syndrome, Second Edition: Different Sensory Experiences (affiliate link)

Book Cover for "Sensory Perceptual Issues in Autism and Asperger Syndrome"

Making Sense: A Guide to Sensory Issues (affiliate link)

Book Cover of "Making Sense: A Guide to Sensory Issues"

Meltdown Management: Strategies to Handle Meltdowns in Children with Autism and Special Needs (affiliate link)

Book cover for "Meltdown Management"

My Sensory Book: Working Together to Explore Sensory Issues and the Big Feelings They Can Cause: A Workbook for Parents, Professionals, and Children (affiliate link)

Book cover for "My Sensory Book"

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I haven’t met a parent of an autistic child yet who doesn’t express some concern about their children’s behavior, eating habits and nutrition. Food and nutrition are important to you and your child. You know that food affects your child in so many ways and want to ensure they are eating the way that is best for them. There has been a lot of information in the news and on social media over the years about gluten-free diets and autism. Would a gluten-free diet really help your autistic child?

What is gluten and its role in your diet?

First, let’s take a look at what gluten is and what it does in our bodies.

According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, gluten is “a tenacious elastic protein substance especially of wheat flour that gives cohesiveness to dough.” The Celiac Disease Foundation defines it as “proteins found in wheat (wheatberries, durum, emmer, semolina, spelt, farina, farro, graham, KAMUT® khorasan wheat and einkorn), rye, barley and triticale – a cross between wheat and rye. Gluten helps foods maintain their shape, acting as a glue that holds food together. It can be found in many types of foods, even ones that would not be expected.”

Gluten is part of grains, which overall provide our bodies with soluble fiber, nutrients and proteins.

How can gluten affect the body?

When we eat food, we have enzymes that break it down as part of our digestion processes. For gluten, our enzymes don’t completely break it down, and it makes its way to our small intestines.

Most people can tolerate the undigested gluten and rid it with their waste. Others though cannot tolerate it, and it can trigger an autoimmune response called Celiac Disease.

According to the Mayo Clinic, for those with Celiac Disease, eating gluten “triggers an immune response in your small intestine. Over time, this reaction damages your small intestine’s lining and prevents it from absorbing some nutrients (malabsorption). The intestinal damage often causes diarrhea, fatigue, weight loss, bloating and anemia, and can lead to serious complications. In children, malabsorption can affect growth and development, besides causing the symptoms seen in adults.”

What is a gluten-free diet?

Image of chalkboard with "gluten free" written on it surrounded by bowls of ingredients

Those who cannot tolerate or are overly sensitive to gluten will usually manage it with a gluten-free diet. That means focusing their overall nutritional needs on foods that do not contain gluten and buying specialized grain products that do not have gluten as an ingredient.

The good news is that most whole foods that pack the most nutritional bang for your child are naturally gluten-free. Those are the best foods for your child to be eating.

Here is a list of some gluten-free foods (please note this list is not comprehensive, but it gives you an idea of what types of food that do not contain gluten):

  • Whole grains that are gluten-free: quinoa, brown rice, wild rice, buckwheat, millet, tapioca, oats (that note they don’t have gluten added), arrowroot
  • Fresh fruits and vegetables
  • Nuts and seeds
  • Legumes (e.g., beans, peas, etc.)
  • Fresh red meat
  • Fresh poultry (avoid any type of meats that have been breaded)
  • Fresh seafood
  • Unflavored soy products (e.g., tofu, edamame)
  • Unflavored milk and yogurt
  • Butter
  • Cheese
  • Cottage cheese
  • Cream
  • Sour cream
  • Olive oil and olives
  • Most cooking oils
  • Avocados
  • 100% fruit juices
  • Tea and coffee
  • Lemonade
  • Sports and soft drinks (but double check labels)

What do scientific studies say about gluten and autistic people?

In the scientific community, studies that have looked at the connection between gluten and autism are mixed. Some have noted a potential link between autism and autoimmune diseases such as Celiac Disease. An extensive review study noted that many studies are too small to make any definitive conclusions. In other words, more research with larger randomized, blinded clinical trials is needed to really understand whether there is a link between the two.

How does picky eating affect your autistic child’s nutrition?

Boy eating a big watermelon slice

One common problem among autistic children is picky eating. That is something that I’ve dealt with from my son J. Even though he is in his late teens now, he still is very picky, although it has gotten better over time.

Causes of picky eating amongst autistic children can include sensory issues with food, swallowing difficulties, food allergies and intolerances, oral development delays and others. For more information about picky eating related to autism and how to combat it, see this blog post.

Picky eating can lead to some nutritional deficiencies and affect many behaviors and aspects of our autistic children, including:

  • Sleep disturbances
  • Low body weight
  • Compromise of their immune system
  • Fatigue

Can working with a registered dietitian help my child?

If you are concerned about your autistic child’s nutrition or worry that your child may have an autoimmune response to certain foods, then talk to your child’s doctor. It is good to have anything medical ruled out regarding food.

If you struggle to help your child eat better, then it may be worth seeking out the help of a registered dietitian. We did this with our son J. Although he hasn’t made a lot of the changes she suggested, he has made a few, and he knows what to do to improve his eating. As with all of us, we often know what to do when it comes to eating – it’s the changing of behavior that is so difficult!

A registered dietitian too can help you determine if a gluten-free diet could help your autistic child. If so, they can advise on specifics and help you make meal plans.

Have you tried a gluten-free diet with your autistic child? What results did you see? Leave a comment below so that we can share and encourage one another on this journey!

Additional resources

Want to dig deeper into this topic? Here are some additional resources to consider.

Autism: Why Food Matters: Connecting the dots for parents (affiliate link)

Behavior Journal for Autism: A Tool for Documenting Behavioral Reactions to Food, Medication, and Stimuli (affiliate link)

Get Your Dragon To Eat Healthy Food: A Story About Nutrition and Healthy Food Choices (affiliate link)

The Children’s Book of Healthy Eating: Improving Lives Through Better Nutrition (affiliate link)

Healthy Eating for Kids: A Parent’s Guide to Health and Nutrition, Grocery Shopping Tips, Learn to Read Nutrition Labels, Establish Healthy Eating Habits (affiliate link)

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9 ways to deal with picky eating when you have a child with autism and ADHD https://autismadhdconnection.com/9-ways-to-deal-with-picky-eating-when-you-have-a-child-with-autism-and-adhd/ Sun, 23 Jan 2022 15:56:14 +0000 https://autismadhdconnection.com/?p=1024 When you have a child with autism and ADHD, picky eating is very common. We all know children – maybe including your own – who will eat only a few foods. They tend to shy away from trying anything new. Both autism and ADHD are associated with picky eating, so it’s not surprising when a […]

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When you have a child with autism and ADHD, picky eating is very common. We all know children – maybe including your own – who will eat only a few foods. They tend to shy away from trying anything new. Both autism and ADHD are associated with picky eating, so it’s not surprising when a child has both of these, then they will have a harder time eating a variety of food. Why is that and how can you help your child eat better?

Why are so many autistic and ADHD children picky eaters?

Picky eating is associated with both autism and ADHD. In addition, selective eating – the more scientific name for picky eating – is also a common symptom of depression and anxiety. Many of our children also struggle with these conditions.

There are several factors that contribute to picky eating among those with autism and ADHD:

  • Sensory issues – many autistic and ADHD children are challenged by sensory issues. They may not like the textures of certain foods. Some children are turned off by the taste and smell of certain spices. (Well, that goes for adults too!) They also may have difficulty with the temperature of the food, not wanting to eat hot or very cold foods.
  • Swallowing difficulties – some autistic/ADHD children have trouble swallowing and need to undergo treatment to learn how to use their muscles to swallow.
  • Late introduction of chewy foods – for some, parents introduced chewy foods to their children late due to a variety of reasons. Sometimes, that causes an aversion to chewy foods.
  • Disruptive behaviors at the dinner table – some children with autism/ADHD participate in disruptive behaviors while sitting at the table such as throwing utensils or running away from the eating area.
  • Oral-motor development delays – other children may have an oral-motor delay in which the muscles in their lips, tongue and jaw do not function properly.
  • Lack of interest in food – this is especially prevalent in children with ADHD. Food just doesn’t hold any interest for them, so they would rather not take the time to eat unless they are really hungry. Medication can contribute to this because many ADHD medicines suppress appetite during the day.
  • Food sensitivities and allergies – it seems like more children today have food sensitivities and allergies. Our son J is allergic to nuts, so it narrows his options because so many foods contain at least traces of nuts or are made in facilities where nuts are used. Allergies and sensitivities to milk, soy, wheat, eggs and more can also limit the variety of foods for some children.
  • Need for routine – some autistic children want to eat only a few foods because they consider it part of their routine.

Any and all of these can contribute to children who are picky eaters. For our son J, sensory issues are the underlying reason why he has been a picky eater throughout his life. He has an aversion to food that is hot – both in temperature and taste. I can remember when he was really little, he mostly subsisted on mini pancakes, applesauce and chicken nuggets.

Over time, he has gotten better and will eat more variety now that he is a teenager. However, his palate is still quite selective. Fortunately, he is more willing to try new foods. I count that as a win. However, a lack of interest in food is probably the biggest factor in his eating habits. Because of his ADHD medicine, he isn’t hungry during the day. That means he doesn’t want to eat unless he eats breakfast before taking his medicine, and we eat dinner later after the effects of his medicine have worn off.

Why do some autistic children have gastrointestinal issues?

Parent sitting with boy at table and cutting up a hot dog on his plate. How to help your child with autism and ADHD overcome picky eating.

Another big reason behind picky eating for autistic children is gastrointestinal (GI) issues. While experts have not figured out exactly what it behind this increase in risk, many studies have shown that autistic people do have a higher tendency for a variety of GI issues. Some are related to higher levels of inflammation in the gut.

Some common GI issues for children with autism include:

Any of these can affect your child’s eating behaviors.

Ways to help your child eat better

As parents, the concern with our children being such picky eaters is that they may not be getting the nutrition their bodies and brains need for development and good health. So how can you encourage your autistic and ADHD child to eat more variety of food and generally eat better?

1. Start small

If you have a new food (or one they claim they don’t like) you want them to eat, then add just a little bit of it to their plates. Whenever my husband or I make a new dish, we give our boys a small amount of it and require them to eat three bites. If they really don’t like it, then they can make something else for themselves. (They are teenagers, so this is a reasonable request. We have cereal, chicken nuggets, canned soups and microwaveable meals they can easily make.) When they were younger, I usually had something easy on hand to microwave that I knew they liked and added that to the meal.

2. Limit snacks in between meals

If your child is grazing throughout the day and filling their stomach with snacks, then they won’t want to eat much for a meal. Especially if it consists of something new or different from what they normally eat.

3. Try new foods when they are hungry

Dinner may not be the best time to ask your child to try something new. Instead, offer it at another time when they are hungry and may be more open to trying a few bites. This may be good to do when you are home on weekends.

4. Pair a new food with a dip your child likes

If you’d like to have your child try a new or different vegetable or another food, pair it with a dip they already enjoy. If they can dip it into something they already like, you may get them to eat more of it.

5. Keep a food journal

Boy sitting at table and eating a bowl of pasta. How to help deal with picky eating with your child with autism and ADHD.

With everything going on in our lives, we can forget what we had to eat yesterday! To keep a record of the foods your child has tried, liked and disliked over time, keep a food journal. This can be notebook that you keep in your kitchen and that you jot down information about the new foods your child has tried and their reaction. It can be helpful as you meal plan and go back to see what foods may eventually be accepted.

6. Model good mealtime behavior yourself

Let’s face it, picky eating is not just a child issue. Many of us as adults are picky eaters too. I’m raising my hand! I am certain my own ADHD (mild version, but it’s still there) and some sensory issues I had around food as a child contributed to my own picky eating.

I’m not nearly as selective in foods now as an adult as I was as a child; however, I still have aversions to certain types of foods and textures. For instance, I truly dislike seafood. I just cannot get used to the texture. I can eat breaded fish sandwiches or fish sticks but that is about as far as I can go. Yet, I wished I liked it more because I know it’s so healthy. I stick to the three-bite rule myself when my husband fixes a new dish. I usually don’t go as far as making something else to eat. Instead, I just eat additional sides and fruit.

7. Be patient

Oh, patience is certainly a virtue. I think I’ve been forced to learn more patience as a parent of an autistic and ADHD child. Yet, being patient when it comes to eating is important. You may need to have your child try a new food or dish over and over before they can accept it. It’s worth it in the end, so keep trying.

8.  Offer choices

We all like to feel in control of our eating, so offer your child some choices. If you are serving a new dish or food, ask them about their preferences for the other foods that are cooked with the meal. Or if you want to add a vegetable or other additional ingredient to a dish (like a different meat or vegetable added to pasta recipe), ask your child to choose it.

9. Use social stories about eating and meals

Sometimes, using Social Stories™ (affiliate link) can help with trying new foods and being better prepared for meals.

Know when to get expert help

So when should you reach out to get expert help? If your child seems to be having a GI issue, you should talk to your child’s doctor about any medical issues that may be causing the selective eating. The doctor may refer you to a specialist such as a pediatric gastroenterologist or pediatric urologist, depending on the potential problem.

If your child is already seeing a behavior therapist or has an ABA (applied behavior analysis) therapist, then talk to them about this issue. They too may be able to offer guidance to you as a parent and work with your child on overcoming food issues.

Occupational or speech therapists can help with swallowing and oral-motor development delays.

Does your child with autism and ADHD have difficulty with picky eating? How have you approached it and what has worked? Leave a comment to share with other parents so that we can learn from and encourage one another on this journey!

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10 tips to prepare your child with autism and ADHD for moving https://autismadhdconnection.com/10-tips-to-prepare-your-child-with-autism-and-adhd-for-moving/ Sun, 10 Jan 2021 16:24:33 +0000 https://autismadhdconnection.com/?p=592 Moving to a new home is a significant event for any family. However, it can be both exciting and unsettling when you have a child with autism and ADHD. So much of their lives depend on routine and the feeling of being safe at home. So how can you prepare your child with autism and […]

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Moving to a new home is a significant event for any family. However, it can be both exciting and unsettling when you have a child with autism and ADHD. So much of their lives depend on routine and the feeling of being safe at home. So how can you prepare your child with autism and ADHD for moving?

We have moved to a new home only once since our son J was born, and he was 14 years old at the time. He loved his bedroom at our old house, and he liked that he was familiar with the neighbors and everyone around us. Fortunately, he did like the new house we were purchasing, so that made it a little better. While he was excited about the move, he was also apprehensive. I definitely used many of the tips below to help him get ready for the move, both emotionally and physically. It helped a great deal, and our move overall went well.

Check out these 10 tips to prepare your child with autism and ADHD for moving.

Woman taping boxes. How to prepare your child with autism for moving.

1. Discuss the move and reason for the change with your child

It’s important to give your child plenty of notice before the move. This one can be a little tricky. If your child is older and tends to like new adventures, then give them as much notice as possible. It would even be good to include them in the process of looking at new homes and giving their opinions about which houses they like. If they are younger or likely to be very upset by the change, then you will need to decide what is the best timing to let them know of the upcoming move.

Also, talk about the reasons for the move. Are you relocating for a job? Have been laid off from a job so you need to downsize your home? Are you ready for a bigger home or now have the financial ability to move to home in a better school district? Use a Social Story™ if you think that will be helpful for your child.

2. Develop a calendar of key events

Moving to a new home involves so many steps and milestones. Creating a calendar (or marking them on a family calendar) can help your child (and you!) keep track of the next big step coming up. This can help your child reduce their anxiety about the move and feel more in the know about what is happening.

3. Let your child help with packing their belongings

Help your child feel part of the moving process and have a sense of ownership by letting them help pack their own belongings. Before you start packing, have your child go through their toys and other belongings to see if there is anything they no longer want. You can donate toys, clothing and other items to your local Goodwill or other charity. You could sell books at a local used bookstore and put the money in their saving account or give it to them for give, save and spend jars.

Also, be sure to use a special color label or marker color to label their boxes. Make sure that you pack their favorite items last since they may need to have a few of them with them on the day of the move.

4. Have a “comfort kit” for your child for the day of the move

Speaking of favorite items, be sure to pack a bag of those for the day of the move. Also, include snacks they love and anything else you think they may need for that day. It’s going to be hectic, so you want to ensure your child has what they need to stay as calm as possible throughout the process.

Teacher teaching class.

5. Talk to your child’s school about IEP transfer

Once you know which school your child will be transferring to, reach out to your child’s current school to discuss the transition of their school records and individualized education plan to the new school. If you are moving to a new state, understand the state’s education requirements (especially if your child is in high school).

6. Make plans for moving day

Moving day will be quite chaotic. Therefore, if your child is young, will be upset by the change in routine or will just need too much of your attention and care, it may be best to either hire a babysitter or ask a family member or friend to watch your child for the day.

Teenagers, older children or those who are generally excited about the move may want to help. Our son J helped us a great deal on the day of our move. He even helped the movers 😊 For him, it was important that he was part of the activities that day and the days before when we were cleaning the new house.

Safety is a high priority for your child, so be sure you have a plan to keep your child with autism safe on moving day.

7. Explore your new neighborhood or city ahead of the move

Whether you are moving to a new neighborhood or a new city, take some time as a family to explore the area. Here are some ideas:

  • Stroll through your new neighborhood or drive through the countryside if you are moving to a rural area.
  • Visit the playground at the new elementary school if your child is younger.
  • Go to the local grocery store and other places you will frequently visit with your child.
  • Check out any fun venues that are in the area.
Man packing. Preparing your child with autism for moving.

8. Meet your new neighbors

It would be helpful to meet some of your new neighbors right before or as soon as you move into your new home. Our son J enjoyed talking to our new next-door neighbors on the first day when we had possession of our home. We had a few days to clean and move some stuff into our home before the big moving day with all of our furniture, etc.

9. Create a plan for settling into your new home

It’s important to have a plan for settling into your new home as quickly. Routines are so important to children with autism and ADHD, so the faster you can get back into your child’s routine the better. Of course, some things will change, but try to keep whatever you can consistent with their old routine.

Here are some suggestions for how to help your child with autism settle into their new home after moving:

  • Make setting up your child’s room first a priority.
  • Try to replicate the set up of their old room as much as possible. Because of where doors, windows and closets are located, it may not be exactly the same, but it will help if it’s similar.
  • Plan to make your child’s favorite dinner as soon as you can after you’ve moved in. I realize it may take a day or two to locate and unpack all the kitchen stuff 😊
  • Invite some friends over for an unpacking party if you moved nearby and if it will ease your child’s anxiety to know they still will get to see their friends.
  • Teach them their new street address and have them memorize it.
  • Drive the route to their new school and arrange for them to visit the school before their first day of classes.
  • Create similar sensations such as using a sound machine at night and having similar air fresheners (if you use them) in the home.

10. If you don’t already have one, make a “meltdown kit” ahead of time for moving day

A big change and chaotic activities during moving could trigger a meltdown in your child with autism due to sensory overwhelm. Have a “meltdown kit” with you in case it happens. Meltdown kits may be different than the comfort kit since a meltdown kit will specifically have items in it to help with sensory overload. This could include a favorite toy or stuffed animal, weighted blanket/vest, headphones/ear plugs, sunglasses or anything else to help calm your child.

Moving to a new home is a big step for your family. Give your child with autism and ADHD time to adjust after moving. It takes us all a while to get used to changes in routines, new places and new people around us.

Do you have experience with moving your child with autism and ADHD? What suggestions do you have to make it easier? Leave a comment so that we can support and encourage one another!

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